How I Talk to Myself During an Anxiety Spiral

If you’ve ever found yourself in an anxiety spiral, you know how quickly your mind can turn into a spooked horse and suddenly you’re imagining the worst-case scenario as if it’s already happening. I’ve been there and have learned how to keep myself from getting too swept away. 

Here’s what helps me: 

I Name What’s Happening Out Loud 

When I feel my thoughts racing, I say (out loud when possible): 

  • “A part of me is feeling anxious. My body is responding.”

  • “Feelings are not facts.” 

Naming it helps me step into observer mode instead of being stuck in the middle of it.

I Ground Myself in the Present Moment 

I use simple grounding tools:

  • I take deep breaths 

  • I might eat a sour candy 

  • Splash some cold water on my face.  

These quick resets remind my body I’m safe and here right now.

I Challenge My Thoughts  

I ask myself questions like: 

  • “What’s the actual evidence this will happen?” 

  • “Has my brain been wrong before?” 

  • “If this does happen, how would I handle it?”

 This helps me separate possibility from probability.

Final Thought 

Anxiety spirals can make you feell powerless, but through practice I have learned to use them as warning signals — not stop signs. They’re my body’s way of saying, “Hey, something feels unsafe — can we slow down?” And every time I talk myself through one, I’m building trust with myself. 

Liz Langley, MSW, LCSW

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